Couples typically seek counseling when there is financial trouble, communication breakdown and/or sexual difficulties. Other reasons for couples counseling maybe due to deciding to get married, having children, moving in together, infidelity, grief and loss and many more life events.
Different counselors will practice different approaches to couples counseling. Some therapist specialize in couples counseling and follow a structured format for resolution. Overall a competent couple’s therapist will help you:
It is not advised for both individuals to see the same therapist for personal therapy. When there is underlying issues, separate from the couple issues, that need to be resolved it is suggested that the individual needing the extra help find a different therapist. Your partner does not need to know everything in your past and only share when you feel comfortable with your past. Pre-mature disclosure can have a negative impact on the relationship. A competent couples counselor will be able to give you direction regarding self-disclosure.